Thomas Merton puts it this way -
The root of Christian love is not the will to love, but the faith that one is loved. The faith that one is loved by God. That faith that one is loved by God although unworthy - or, rather, irrespective of one's worth!
Humanistic love will not serve. As long as we believe that we hate no one, that we are merciful, that we are kind by our very nature, we deceive ourselves; our hatred is merely smoldering under the gray ashes of complacent optimism. We are apparently at peace with everyone because we think we are worthy.
That is to say we have lost the capacity to face the question of unworthiness at all.
But when we are delivered by the mercy of God the question no longer has a meaning.
God save us from the burden of maintaining the illusion that we are worth anything apart from him.



